We’ve all heard the saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup.”
But for many of us, it’s easy to brush off.
We’re masters of juggling responsibilities, whether it’s work, family, friendships, or any number of other commitments.
The problem is that doing this for months, years, or even decades takes a toll on our own health and wellness.
Why It’s So Hard to Put Yourself First
Let’s be real. The thought of putting yourself first might feel selfish.
There’s this voice that says, “But my kids/grandkids/husband/job/church need me.” On top of that, we’ve been conditioned by society to wear our busyness like a badge of honor.
The truth is, neglecting your own needs leads to to burnout, stress, and even chronic health issues like heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure. And showing up for everyone else without taking care of you means you’re running on fumes.
Eventually, it catches up with you.
For many women going through perimenopause or menopause, this is when the body demands more attention than ever before.
The Real Costs of Overlooking Your Needs
It starts small.
Maybe it’s skipping meals because you’re too busy. Or you stay up late, pushing through exhaustion to finish one more thing. You might be using caffeine and sugar to get you through the day.
It seems harmless at first, but over time, these habits chip away at your health.
Chronic fatigue, stress, irritability, sleep issues, and even more serious issues can crop up. Ignoring these signs can lead to bigger problems that impact not just your body but your ability to enjoy life.
To sum it up, you can only put your own needs aside for so long before it shows up in ways that are hard to ignore. And while it might initially feel like you can just “power through,” the long-term costs are too high.
Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish – It’s Essential
Prioritizing yourself isn’t irresponsible or indulgent.
In fact, it’s one of the most responsible things you can do – for yourself and for the people who rely on you.
Imagine having the energy, mental clarity, and physical well-being to show up fully for everyone who needs you – also for you. That’s what making this shift does – it makes you better equipped to handle the demands of day to day life with grace and joy.
So instead of seeing self care as a luxury, start thinking of it as a form of long-term investment.
When you prioritize your health, everyone around you benefits from a more energized, resilient, and grounded version of yourself.
Practical Steps to Start Prioritizing You
The idea of prioritizing yourself might feel new and different if it’s something you’ve gotten away from.
Here are a few simple, manageable ways to shift the balance to support your wellbeing – without turning your life upside down.
1. Create Micro-Moments of Self-Care
Self care doesn’t have to be about spa days and weekend getaways (although those are nice when you have room for them).
It’s about creating small, intentional moments to check in with yourself. Take a 5-minute stretch break, drink a full glass of water, make a cup of calming tea, or just pause and take some deep breaths.
The effects of these moments are cumulative, creating a domino effect that helps keep your energy and mood steady throughout the day.
2. Set Boundaries That Honor Your Time
Your time is valuable. Learning to say “no” is an act of self care.
Every “no” to something that drains you is a “yes” to something that fuels you.
And you don’t have to cut anyone off, but it is important to be mindful of where you’re investing your energy. With clear boundaries, you create space for what truly matters.
3. Fuel Your Body with Purpose
Good nutrition doesn’t have to be complicated, but it does need to be intentional.
Start small by incorporating one nutrient-rich meal into your day.
Hormonal changes as we age often demand more thoughtful eating, and simple adjustments can make a huge difference. When you give your body what it needs, it responds by giving you the energy and fortitude to achieve your goals and thrive.
4. Move in a Way That Feels Good
Forget the “no pain no gain” mentality.
Instead, focus on movement that makes you feel good.
It could be a morning walk, dancing around your living room, or stretching before bed.
Find what feels good to you, and lean into that. The goal isn’t to force yourself into a rigid or overly intense routine – it’s to actually enjoy moving your body.
5. Connect with Like-Minded Women
Transformation is always easier when you’re not doing it alone. Being connected with women who are also prioritizing health and wellness can give you the support, accountability, and encouragement you need to stay consistent.
Whether it’s an online group, in-person gatherings, or working with a coach, don’t underestimate the power of being connected with people who get it.
Prioritizing Yourself is the Path to Thrive at Any Age
Here’s the bottom line: taking care of yourself is the foundation for long-term wellness, especially as we get older. When you start making yourself a priority, everything shifts.
Your energy improves, you’re happier and more confident, and you start showing up for life in a way that feels aligned and powerful.
If you’re not sure where to start, or you’d like the support and accountability of a coach along the way, complete a coaching application. After receiving your application, we’ll schedule a call to explore how coaching can support you in reclaiming your energy, confidence, and joy.
